Vaughn Elliot Conica - Online Memorial Website

This memorial website was created to remember our dearest

Vaughn Elliot Conica

 October 5, 1988 - March 12, 2007.

"Letting Go"

Letting go does not mean you stop caring;

It means I can't do it for someone else.

Letting go is not to cut myself off;

It is the realization I can't control another.

Letting go is not to enable;

But to allow learning from natural consequnces.

Letting go is to admit powerlessness;

which means the outcome is not in my hands.

Letting go is not trying to change or blame another;

It is to make the most out of myself.

Letting go is not to care for; but care about.

Letting go is not to fix; but to be supportive.

It is not to judge but to allow another to be a human being.

Letting go is not to be in the middle of arranging th outcome;

but to allow others to affect thier own destinies.

Letting go is not to be protective;

Its to allow another to face reality.

Letting go is not to deny; but to accept.

Letting go is not to nag, scold, or argue;

But instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

Letting go is not to adjust everything to my own desires;

But to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

Letting go is not to criticize or regulate anybody;

But try to become what I dream I can be.

Letting go is not to regret the past;

But to grow and live for the future.

Letting go is to fear less, and live more.

Written by Vaughn Conica

If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane. we'd walk right up to heaven to bring you home again. No farewell words were spoken, no time to say good-bye . You were gone before we knew it,and only god knows why. Our hearts still ache in sadness and secret tears still flow. What it meant to lose you no one will ever know.